How We Met...

Meet Juliet and Dave

My name is Juliet. I am a stay-at-home mom with a wonderful, handsome husband and the cutest son I could ever hope for. We’re a family like any other. But there is one thing about us that really makes people stand up and take notice: My husband, Dave, is Chinese, and I am caucasian.

I met Dave online in early 2002. The internet really is a wonderful thing sometimes! After a few days of e-mailing and instant messaging, we had our first phone conversation. That conversation lasted two hours, and I remember going to bed immediately afterwards feeling very excited and happy. Even then, I knew that Dave was the one. By late summer we were married, and in March 2003, William was born.

I’ve always found Asian men more attractive, and I never thought of it as all that odd. But I can remember very specific instances when people would ask me “why are you interested Asian men?” I found it a bit rude that they would ask me this, but their curiosity was sincere. And I think I have some idea what it’s all about.

Like it or not, we are influenced by the media. And American media is notorious for being less than flattering in its portrayals of Asian men. Actors like John Cho and Daniel Dae Kim are starting to change the image of the Asian man for the better, but it is slow going. Many people still see an Asian male and think “nerd,” brain,” “awkward around women,” etc. There is one more stereotype that I refuse to discuss here, as it is unfair and untrue. At least in my experience.

The thing is, for me, the American media never really played a part in shaping my opinion of things. I have always enjoyed Chinese films, and Japanese and Korean pop music. The sex symbols I was seeing were Asian. The “ideal male,” in my eyes, was Asian. That is the only real explanation I can think of.
For more discussion, please check out my AM/WF website:

www.geocities.com/amwfstories/. If you have a love story you want me to include on the site, it will be added with pleasure.

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